Oh, by the way, I spent the last 2 days reading and finishing the care and feeding of husbands. Very good advise for the most part, some of it I disagreed with. She was a little too old school in some parts, acting like a wife is a slave to her husband, never to have an opinion but to only serve him. 1950's thoughts. But most was good advise. Reminded me of the one Michele Weiner-Davis wrote that I already read-Getting through to the man you love. Michelle's was much more involved though. Of course I am guilty as most of us our in doing many of the things mentioned. I have always said I am not perfect. But when we first separated I did my best to try and change many of those ways. But it seems those efforts were not enough. The damage in his mind is already done. Not to say that I have stopped working on myself, I have not. Even if he does not return I will continue for myself. I already feel better than I have in some time. I am starting 08 with an improved attitude. Wish me luck, I am going to need all the strengh in my power! And to that end I sat the kids down and talked to them as a family about how we all need to be more respectful to one another. I am going to be diligent about it.
Me 43 H 44 S-13 D-9 Separated 90 days 6/28/05 H Says he is done-10/2/06-day after 18th anniv Moved out 10/2/07-to father's house-day after 19th wedding anniv-GF now H Filed for D 7/08