Ok, I have a new issue that has arrived. I am looking for advice on whether or not to go to another mans black tie affair-work party that he(a long time friend of both me & my H)asked me to go to with him because he has no other date. I told him I would go as a friend and that I need to get out & do things like that more often. He agrees that we will have a blast. After I committed, he has been hitting on me big time. It is rather nice to have someone so interested in me (since H is not). This friend now thinks that we are going to get physically involved with each other that night(he is even telling me he thinks that this is destiny). He said it to our friends. Then when he said it to me, I told him that "until my ring is off my finger-I will not get physically involved with any one". He started to then change his tone and say that was fine. But last night a large group of us were hanging out, and he said it again to me how he was going to take such good care of me that night and flirted with me. He also invited me to go to a college b-ball game with him in 2 wks,(my H and I used to go with him before)& i said sure for the love of the game. I am afraid that he is not getting the point. I know I am going to have to lay down some boundaries before the work party happens. I am just feeling guilty about going with him because my mind and heart are definitely still in my M. Does anyone think that this would be a terrible decision (even if I know he will not have a chance with me that night) or not? I guess I am also afraid of what my H will think if he finds out. The friend that is taking me is very good-looking(kind of a player) , strong (also financially), independent, and Outgoing. My H would most likely feel threatened/jealous that I am going. But my H also has no idea what I am doing with my life since he has no care and never visits and has even distanced himself from most of the people in our past life together. I have read once that it is good to make the H think a little like i am moving on (maybe even date-but no sex). And I have read that H will most likely be watching me even though I don't think he is. Most my friends all feel like H won't even know and that I should go to the work party and have a good time for me. Everyone keeps saying I deserve to go out with someone like my friend who can show a woman a good time and be a gentelman to me. I personally feel like I need to make decisions now for me only and not to worry about what H would think about it. I am just starting to feel a little guilty about it. What should I do??? TIPPER
