In Support of Strong Puppy

[Stigmata]

Nice thread title, Mojo. Still cracking me up I see.

Strong Puppy, eh? As opposed to, "Lost Puppy," I suppose.

No, doesn't work for me as I can't get past the oxymoron.

Kind of reads to me the same as: Peacekeeper missile.

SIDEBAR: Have to get this off my chest. I am not IDing with the menagerie metaphors to the point of an OD feeling. Too girly for me. I remember the last time I gave such thought to animals and that was as a little boy when I learned that, no, no, no, lions go with lions and giraffes go with giraffes on your Garanimals wardrobe, little boy Stig, you never mix the two because: "they're cool animals."

So obviously a very long time ago. I'll stick to my clinical XX XY genes, hardwiring, code, and drives, if you don't mind. Yeah, I know, not as fun and fluffy.
End of Sidebar

Mojo Wrote:

His male code message to me along the lines of Stigmata's "I'm a nice person but not a nice guy" was "I used to be an *zzhole but not any more". Which I interpret to mean "I'm a sexually experienced rat transitioning into vole mode".

Sigh. I'll give you a pass on account of your gender, silly girl. Not the same. Quite different actually. From my past associations with Ms from virgins to ladykillers who fukced realistically over 1,000 Fs, the ones who said this line usually were one of 2 types, as I will elaborate below.

I never was and don't say this out of arrogance. I never DH to an F; never cheated, never bent them to my will with orders and the like. Probably because I never chased. Any of my meaningful interactions with Fs came out of a result of them pursuing me. Sure I've probably said some *zzhole things to Fs but not out of disrespect but only because I'm a man and men can often be emotionally clumsy, so to speak.

I would never say what this guy said. The male code reading for this is one of two things IMO. Both I find to be inauthentic:

1. "I have no edge to my personality so I need to say this so she will think I used to be a rat turned vole because I am a bit insecure I may not be adequately charismatic."

(the F usually sniffs this sap out pretty quickly thankfully)

Or:

2. "I actually undersold myself. I used to be a TOTAL azzhole but now I am just a regular azzhole that will become evident once I get into a mid to LTR."

Finally, come on, Mojo, I know you have been off themarket for almost 20 years. If a guy is paying to fly you out to see him for the weekend it is not because the phone just doesn't do it for him -- he needs to sit and listen to your sparkling conversation whilst you both sip from the same chocolate malt with two straws. (eye roll)

(chuckle...which IMO tips the scales he is probably #2)

-Stigmata-