Separated, but maybe not for long

[Dom R]

I got home from work today and found a note and my husband's wedding ring on my pillow. I had given him some papers I had printed from this site so he could read them. The note was on those papers saying that I needed the papers more than he did and that I wasn't trying but he was.

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I'm thinking that either he ran out of pot and was in a bad mood so he lashed out at me (his personality changes when he runs out of pot) or he's meeting up with some woman for wild sex since he thinks that pot, music and wild sex are the important things in life.

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you yourself wrote, at the top of your thread,

I wasn't putting anything into the marriage.

So why are you trying to now reject what he has written to you?

As near as I can tell, since we have separated he has not made any attempt to get a job.

that may or may not be true. However, it doesnt change the truth factor of what he wrote to YOU.

A marriage is supposed to be an effort by both people. you want him to make an effort on what you think is important.
how much of an effort are you making, on what he thinks is important?