Frank,

Have you sought medical help for your anxiety problems? I'll say it again. You're not alone. Having emotional fallout from all you've been through is not unusual. Being anxious and depressed after a crisis has subsided is common. Things become safer, the crisis is past and yes now is the time to feel everything and get help to deal with it. This is exactly what happened to my H after we D'd and reconciled. Call it PTSD, whatever, but it's very real and not likely treated with self help. Lexapro helped my H and didn't cause too many sexual side effects. Zoloft is also used to treat anxiety and has worked wonders with my D. She too had a lot of emotions and issues to deal with after our separation. We're not invincible.

Just wanted to let you know that this doesn't have to be an ending for you. It's part of the healing/piecing process too. Please don't stop prematurely and sell you and your family short. If nothing else, get better before making big decisions. It sounds as if your emotinal fall out might be leading you into a WAS fog of your own. If that's the outcome, please let it be made by you at your best. Make that decision from a place of strength.

I know a lot of people on the boards seek you out for help and advice. That's because you've been SO amazing. You're right. It's time to take care of you and your plate is full. It's time for Frank to get the support and encouragement. You're a good man. A great father and husband \:\) You've been let down and hurt by the people you love most. Heal, forgive, love and find peace friend. You deserve all of that and so much more.

Please let us know how you're doing. So many here care about you. It might not be the forum for you to explore this phase of your life.. that's up to you, but if you need an ear or encouragement, it's here for you.

Sheila