Well, last night H decided we were going to have a family meeting. I thought he would tell the kids he was moving out. He started off by telling them that if I were honest our problems stemmed from both of us. He apologized to the kids for his being distant from them. He made a lot of excuses. I prompted the kids to tell him how they really felt about things they had mentioned to me. It was quite uncomfortable and of course H got mad.
This morning I was told how controlling I am again. He said because I wasn't on the paperwork for the huge loan he has given those people I couldn't stand it because he handled it and not me. He brought up a comment I had made about how dressed up he was for work one Friday?????
He says we can't fix our R but we will never let the kids know. They will think all is fine and he will concentrate on his R with them. I told him they are too old and will never buy into his pretending.
He says he realizes because of the situation and what the kids told him last night that he will not ever leave because if he does they will have nothing to do with him.
However, he refuses to even consider seeing me in anything other than a negative light and doesn't want to be "nice" to me because I will begin to think everything is "fine" between us when I know how he really feels.
So, basically, he won't leave because the kids are fed up with him and if he does he will never see them again. He really is mad at S23 because he says S is arrogant and had an attitude last night and had already formed an opinion of H before he talked to them.
I told him he is very angry and so is S and that is a real problem for the two of them.
So, he intends to sit and spin. God please save us from this mess!
"Tell me what you plan to do with your one wild and precious life." Mary Oliver
