i am just really tired of this nonsense, not being able to treat her like a lover, to always walk around with a long face, like a kid who is pouting over not getting the toy he really wanted, never knowing when sex is going to happpen, never having sex spontaneously even when i try.
I could have written this. I can tell you for sure that long face, pouty behavior is guaranteed to turn her off. When I manage to avoid that attitude my results are usually much better. I remember a quite a while ago (I have a post on this board about it) where I decided to try stopping the resentment and when she turned me down I just smiled and said: "Your loss babe. I was planning on being fantastic tonight." and rolled over to go to sleep. Two minutes later, I hear her clothes hit the floor and the action was pretty hot.
I can't always cut through my emotions to keep this attitude going but it does work. Resentment is about you giving up control of how you feel and letting her control your emotional state. You may be able to use resentment to get "duty sex" but you will never be able to use it to get true desire. Resentment is weak. Weakness is a turn-off.
Gone the carvings and those who left their mark. Gone the kings and queens, now only the rats hold sway.
