thanks for dropping by FLTC and Being Me! Your thoughts are always welcome, food for my own thought. Now FLTC, the "woman friend" is someone I've known for probably 15 years, we worked together for 10 years at least and have kept in touch since. She has been separated for 5 years and has two young girls to care for. I watched her go through the Hell and she didn't fare so well but she kept on going and could be termed a pretty heroic person when you look at what she's done with her life. She is unattached right now and both of us have been exploring our spiritual sides. It's a nice friendship and I value it greatly, we see each other for coffee, sometimes dinner and do the church thing every second Saturday night with our girls. Being Me, your H is a pro at doing nothing for you and trying to legitimize it as "I would only be doing it to please you" well, so what if you are, isn't that also part of what a R entails, doing things to please the other sometimes just because they would like it? Certainly, you can go way overboard and lose yourself but he sure isn't in danger of doing that, is he! you're right though, selfish people will find any excuse to be that way, it's just like my W saying that any of her shortcomings in re to meeting my needs are just proof we shouldn't be together. It's called "I don't want to do sweet f-all to meet your needs" pure and simple. Anyway, enough of that for now! Last night I picked up the girls at W's place and she was upstairs helping D10 clean her room, I went upstairs and greeted her as she was leaving the room. Her response was one of her "poor me, the world is so hard on me" sighs, no greeting in return. My first instinct was to say "to return my greeting would be polite" but I caught myself, what would be the point? I've been there before and it gets me nowhere except into a verbal brawl with her, so I let it go. It just reminded me of how much of this kind of treatment I used to put up with day in and day out, instead of feeling angry though I actually felt sorry for her. She's the one whose unhappy, not me. She's so strange though, I went downstairs to pick up my mail which she leaves in my old place at the kitchen table and there was a small box of chocolates sitting on my mail, a nice gesture on her part. She's a strange lady! Well, let's make today a great day everybody. Later!
