Well, FloppySocks guy is definitely taking the lead in the WhoWillBeMyNextLover Derby. He has been sweetly and consistently attentive to me and he signals good-humored matter-of-fact confidence in sexual matters. His male code message to me along the lines of Stigmata's "I'm a nice person but not a nice guy" was "I used to be an *zzhole but not any more". Which I interpret to mean "I'm a sexually experienced rat transitioning into vole mode". On the downside is the fact that he lives far away. I asked my sister's ex-boyfriend if a man expects you to have sex with him if he flies you in for the weekend and he said "Yes".
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
