Please recognize that I am not attacking you or anyone else who has gotten enamored of someone outside their M. It would be easy for it to happen. It would also be easy to take the quick fix of a one night stand. However, I have mentioned many times that my parents made it past an affair on my Dad's part and I believe that their M is the better for what they went through. Certainly with kids involved all affairs should not be deal breakers. If both people realize what they did that made the affair possible and they can fix things it is better for the kids for their parents to stay together. I think there are many instances where an affair is not a deal breaker and doesn't have to be.
However, I don't know what I would do. I have to be honest and say that I don't know if I could get past it. Due to the pain I saw both my parents go through during that time (especially my Mom) I know that if step out on my H then I have for all intents, stepped out on my M. I would rather go without than be 1/2 in and 1/2 out of my M and my family, trying to be a good M partner and also a good affair partner. It can't work so I won't do it.
