saffie, that's just it, we expect that ow will have a certain reaction because its one that we would have if we were seeing a married man. in my case, ow knew me, she knew we were married, and she'd seen us together since the affair had begun (before I knew about it) and knew at least that I was happy and in love with my husband and such. so really there wasn't anything much to say. except obviously back in october I did have something to say. but that was less about being vindictive to her, and more about being tired of the lies and the trying to get everything out in the open. I hate all the lying. I hate it with a passion.
yeah, looking back on it, it probably wasn't very smart. but it was also pretty fun...because I have zero doubt I put a lot of doubt into her mind. but she made her choice on the matter. they have a pretty sick, unhealthy relationship, though.
you know, saffie, about your letter...I suppose that's why so many therapists/experts/etc tell us to write a letter. but then they tell us not to actually send it...to burn it, or to file it away or something. am wondering it that could help mymonkeybug, here. maybe write down what you would like to say to ow, to say to your h, etc, but just burn it, or file it away or something. it might help you to get the feelings/thoughts out.
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