the door is now wide open!

[BeingMe]

I think it's Dr. Phil who said that R's are negotiated. If one partner is doing all the running around, then it will be dysfunctional, and one teaches the other partner how to treat you. If something isn't working, then in a normal M, one should be able to negotiate what you want, and be pleased when you get that thing, whatever it may be, and so should the other person. I know with my H, if I ask for something or express a need, then I count on not getting it met because then he says he'll just be faking it to please me. WTF!!!!???? But, he then expects me to fulfill his needs whether he tells me or not. Oh, but he can't read my mind either, so in the end, none of my needs are ever met ... well, not never, but rarely, and then by pure chance.

I think some men and women tend to expect more than they are willing to give. They are inherently selfish, and it's very difficult for them to change, unless they look inward and truly try for their own sakes first. Then, there are those of us who tend to enable these selfish people, making excuses for them, or just trying to keep the peace. So many reasons!

Ugh! It's all so frustrating. I am glad you are enjoying your own place, somewhat, Wii! At least, you're away from the madness.

Take care.