Tom, A couple of notes, first go read the Divorce Remedy book again, its got the same or better advice than you would have got off these boards while you were gone. The second thing is something I've learned through experience and that's to not be afraid of being alone. I was afraid of losing the ex when the D started, afraid of losing the kids, they were upper teens at the time. But like most things, the trepidation of the possibility turned out to be much worse than reality. Since the D started, and it's been about a year since finalized, I've been promoted at work, got a Master's degree, am in the best shape of my life and dating around. All on my own which feels great, and to those that that say they couldn't have done this or that without ___, they have not experienced that type of life, living on their own, to make a qualified statement. Stop chasing her, be strong, and she may come back to you on her own. Best of luck, RonJon
