Stig I agree the sexual affirmations are helpful but not when you are living like this:
Karen
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I have given sexual affirmations and from what I can tell I think he sees them as false praise that I give in order to get more out of him or something. Or they are an expression of the alien that I am (an HD female). There has been nothing to affirm including kisses, but pats, flirting etc... in so long that unless I push myself on him all I can sexually affirm at the moment is his skill in putting up Christmas decorations, doing homework with the kids etc... I do affirm those things - very frequently, appropriate thanks and so on. I just don't say, "Gee H, when you mash those potatoes it makes me hot."
(((Karen))))) Not even kissing? I just don't understand how your H is not questioning the damage this is doing to the M. No sex in year? I don't blame you one bit for wanting to throw a hissy fit. I do them all too well. I still think you should just tell H you feel unloved without sexual intimacy. That all the christmas decorations and mashed potatoes are not making you feel Love. I'm assuming your H wants you to feel love for him and vice versa. Maybe he just doesn't get the importance of the sex - love connection. I know my H didn't. And it wasn't until he knew I could fall in love with someone else that he said "oh sh!t, I better figure this out."
