Man, jab, I think it sounds like you're doing great! Not that you should relax, but she's thinking about you and that means a lot. I know Amy says to think about yourself, but I think about W a lot too and wonder where I'm at. In the grand scheme of things, though, I don't think there's a place to be. You are where you're at, and only you know where that is. Every sitch is unique and now that those of us who are here realize that M isn't the rosy picture we used to think it was, we're always going to be wondering where we're at.
Do what makes you happy and judge from the results whether that makes your W happy too. Be a friend and meet her needs, but you have to meet your own too.
My W sounds very similar to yours, but quite a few steps back. When we're together it's great, but the in between times are killing me and she's always distant when we meet or talk again. So far she's always drifted back, though.
