Insight from a LBS - almost four years after

[fooled again]

NYS,

Oh I shouldn't have read your post today. Today I am feeling disillusioned. Today I am feeling as though I am still the same fool I was 3 mos ago, 5 mos ago, 1.5 yrs ago. Today my "spider senses" are tingling.

But what do you do when you have embarked on DBing? I ask myself this question nearly daily: what do I do if he is still seeing OW? Am I still willing to fight, or will I give up THIS TIME. But then, when I think more, I realize that DBing gets us to a place where we are okay w/ ourselves, stronger, more self-confident, better able to look at our sitch and evaluate it, make sure it is working for us. And if our Ss don't come back ever, we have nevertheless come a long way personally. You really can't lose by DBing.

It's the difference between HOPING that things will get better in our M's and MAKING things better in our lives. I believe that I can get to where if I find out he's at it again, I will dust myself off, and truly move on with my life knowing I did everything could.

Thank you for your thoughts and I hope that you have been able to get to that place these past few years.

FA