Turbulence and Connection

[BeingMe]

I am shocked at how your W has spoken to you, and has treated you. You (or any other man) is not responsible for taking care of her, financially or emotionally. She is responsible for herself. It's just a bonus when two people can be caring to each other, and if one happens to be able to financially take care of both of you. Good grief! Nothing worse than a person who made a choice, then gets too old to change, then takes it out on everyone around them (who care about them), and does not take personal responsibility for their own choices. I am talking about the choice not to have children, but also her choice not to seek a career by going back to school, or starting her own business. It would've been so easy to do since she does not have the added stress and responsibility of raising children.

Honestly, CL, I think your W is to be pitied, but she made her bed, and now when it's uncomfortable, she wants to blame others .... very selfish.

But, I know you love her, and you are doing your best to accommodate her needs/wants/demands, while still maintaining your own sanity and boundaries. Good for you!