I've been reading NMMNG and trying to incorporate not allowing my W's brushoffs to annoy or upset me. So this morning we are laying in bed and I was caressing her. Sometimes she gets annoyed that I like to move my hands and feel her skin rather than just hold her still. She grabbed my hand and held it in place so I asked her what was up. She said she doesn't always like me to touch her that way. In the past I would have been a bit hurt by this but this time I simply smiled, kissed her, and said "Hmmm, I guess you married poorly. Must suck to be you." She didn't get angry and actually I did not feel any resentment or anger. I have no idea if this type of reaction will have any effect on her but I felt good about it. I guess that is the point of NMMNG. Simply know what you want and act on it without concern for the outcome. I guess I'll see if this approach works or not but even if it doesn't work for her I will just be happy if it works for me.
Gone the carvings and those who left their mark. Gone the kings and queens, now only the rats hold sway.
In the past I would have been a bit hurt by this but this time I simply smiled, kissed her, and said "Hmmm, I guess you married poorly. Must suck to be you." She didn't get angry and actually I did not feel any resentment or anger.
By Jove, I think you're getting it!
a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.
