On my last thread, BB wondered why I didn't post much showing GP as puppy. The fact of the matter is that I actually do have a little bit of discretion. I figure it's okay to post about a guy's wolf behavior on a public forum because most guys would probably not really mind being the anonymous star of a porn film. I figure it's okay to post about a guy's monkey behavior because that's just what you get when you act monkey, like a blurb in the paper telling about your DUI. I figure it's okay to post about a guy's Alpha/St. Bernard behavior because that's pretty much what a guy himself is consciously choosing to put out for public consumption.However, I consider it to be borderline dysfunctional monkey behavior to write about somebody acting puppy, depending on the circumstances, because you are exposing somebody's vulnerability which they revealed to you. The few times I've done it I've gotten really squeamish and wished that I hadn't. However, in the interest of my own therapy I want to state that it is true that I remain a soft-touch cow and therefore form emotional attachments to men when they exhibit puppy behavior. What I am working on in this regard is limiting cow behavior to appropriate circumstances and trying to toughen up the cow by teaming her up with the lioness more often.
Anyways, I made up a story to illustrate why I think strong puppy is important.
A man (St Bernard/Wolf- played by Denzel Washington) goes out to hunt to feed his family. The fates conspire against him, bad weather, scarce game etc. F*ck-ups of his own making compound, lunch left behind, lost trail etc. So, he arrives home with nothing, hungry, cold and naturally in vulnerable puppy dog mode. Weak puppy dog might either act totally pathetic and, for instance, whine about the fates or weak puppy dog might call in another animal to cover, for instance, the wolf might choose to snap at everybody when he walks in the door and kick the real puppy. Strong puppy would just sit at the table and say to the woman (played by Patricia Neal) "I had a really tough day and I'm cold and hungry.". Then the woman if she was kind would call in her cow and feed the man. If the woman was also smart she wouldn't make too much fuss about it. If the woman was really smart she would wait until the man was done eating and then say "We do need some more wood for the firebox." and give the man the opportunity to rise to St.Bernard. Then strong puppy dog rising to St. Bernard could sincerely thank the woman for the food and go chop some wood. Then when the man brought in the wood and came to sit by the fire the woman could be in bunny sliding to monkey mode and say something about appreciating muscles. Then the man could be in monkey/wolf mode and snatch her down to the bearskin rug for some action.
The moral of this story is that you need to be self-aware and have all your animals be strong and available as needed in order to get to sex in the context of a LTR in which sh*t happens. The particular point I am making about the puppy dog is that it is important for a man to allow himself to be vulnerable (manifest as strong puppy)in a relationship because it shows that he trusts a woman to be kind.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
Well, what I took from that story is my H has a very strong puppy dog (st. bernard) naturally and he is really working on bringing out the wolf---with much success this week!
I'm being bunny/monkey in response to him which is really helping us. submissive bunny/monkey? It's still very confusing.
I was thinking more about what you said about making all the zoo animals strong. So in honor of the cow (my weakest animal) I am cooking for H tonight - homemade eggplant parm, caeser salad, garlic bread, and a yummy dessert, yet to be determined.
Hopefully I'll be cooking while basking in the glow of our afternoon hot sex.
Thanks, Mojo. I think your post is very instructional for men.
It's okay to talk about a man's St. Bernard, wolf and monkey but not his puppy. Entirely true and very illuminating. Point taken.
Your story is not really pro-puppy, it's more anti-weak puppy. It describes how being strong puppy is better than being weak puppy or weak wolf. You also want to move Denzel from being puppy to a higher animal as soon as it's feasible.
Let me ask you this...why was being strong puppy important? If Denzel had come home from his Very Bad Day and been strong St. Bernard, strong wolf or even strong monkey, how would that have been worse than being strong puppy? Under what circumstances would you rather see strong puppy than any other strong animal?
It looks to me like:
strong St. Bernard OR strong wolf OR strong monkey >> strong puppy > weak St. Bernard OR weak wolf OR weak monkey >> weak puppy
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Mojo, how would you characterize animal-wise the scene in "Gone With the Wind" after Rhett and Scarlett's daughter is killed when Rhett sits and cries? Even Mammy is moved by the sight of this very strong man being so vulnerable.
I think the thing about strong puppy is... you DON'T call attention to it. You just recognize it... and get it out of puppy-hood ASAP, without making it feel bad that it hit puppy hood for a moment.
Unlike a mother, who sooths the puppy, turns him on his back, scratches his tummy, picks it up in her arms, takes it to bed, and cuddles it to death. No sex is happening with a puppy.
It is unlike a female bunny. Strong or weak, bunnies must be soothed, for they are nervous creatures by habit. Afterall, dam near any predator will eat a bunny.
Some bunnies bounce back much faster, depending on quickly they are soothed. If a bunny is being soothed by a wolf... the minute you stop quivering, I'm going to eat you... well... it does a bunny no good to be soothed.
I'm thinking 'puppy' is not a good descriptor. But that's just me. Too childlike. Men... no. They just, mentally... can't go there.
What if I said... Lion with a thorn in his foot? Make more sense than strong puppy?
Stig and Blackfoot both killed their bunnies, and that is precisely their point, I think. As a Lioness... they would have gotten a face full of claw from me... which I think would have been easier for either one of them to deal with. You?
