I kinda think... you just need to start over. I think you have some expectations there, while normal for a married man... your wife was seeing things as done. Maybe. Don't know.
Do you like talking to your wife... about something that might get her dander up... but not necessarily piss her off? I keep going back to my Harmonic Oscillator discussion, but you may not know anything about that. However... an HO discussion is more like a philosophical discussion that really may not have a resolution per sey... it's more of a point/counter point thing... foreplay with words.
Dunno. I think you just keep going back to the same ole' same ole, which is, in part, what got you to your moratorium. You just need to change horses. Completely. I think.
I could seriously be wrong. I was discussing this on a thread I started... in that Other is Other... not what we project. Same ole same ole isn't going to work.
Find a new path. Stretch yourself. Something completely and absolutely NEW. That way... you are both on unfamiliar ground and you both... then... are equal. You are feeling a bit unsure... she is feeling a bit unsure... it equals out the sense of... who has power.
Does that make any sense? There is something very... provocative about completely new.
