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I said nothing, he derived it from my car running and me coming out in my coat to leave as soon as he got there. I wasn't going to say a thing, it is typical for him. I have made a point not to be negative to him. It isn't worth it anymore. But seems he still sees the right to come over and be miserable to me. He came over before xmas and flipped out over something stupid D8 said to him and ranted and yelled until I was in tears. It turned into me causing him 20 yrs of bad xmases. That was not right for him to say. He half apologized for it later but that doesn't make it right. Last night he came over and had an attitude again. When he is like that he will say and do things to purposely get my anger up. But I just ignore it. I will not fight him. He absolutely has no desire to get back together and come home.

For another thing I told him I would be able to take vac most of xmas but he would have to handle the last 3 days. Night before the first of them I asked him where the kids were going. He said I don't know. I wanted to flip but said nothing. So I asked him about the neighbor who had offered. He annoying said you call her then. Remember, this was the night before! I had to go to work the next day for the first time after xmas. So why can't I say anything when he shirks his duties??