I think I had the impression that once the relationship was in good shape the sex should just fall into place. All the stories I've read on the board seem that way.
I don't see that happening much on this board. The recent success of the IC's and LFL are actually the exception. Most of the long term R's here are stuck.
Yes, it's the book by Marnia Robinson. She also has a web site, which you'll find if you google her.
