Ann, you are such a sweetie to be concerned for me. I am hanging in here and it is b/c of my friends here on the board. Hope you all will stay with me. I appreciate all the help and advice.
You know, some of the advice sounds so much like me when I'm talking, but in real life it is a lot harder to do some of the things that is suggested. The outcome is not always worth what we were trying to achieve.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Baltoman, I think I have heard the same thing about that AD. I believe that is what my H takes....but under a different name. He does really well on it. He does not gain weight easily, so I have not seen much difference.
I have not been able to tell any difference in the Zoloft about 9 weeks. I don't know how long you have to take it in order to start feeling the effects. I am fighting the weight. I make it pretty good during the day at work, but want to eat at night. Most of that is out of boredom.
Thanks for dropping by with your comments.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Well, seems like ages since anyone has talked to me. But when I looked back at the dates, it's only been a couple of days. I hope you have not gotten disgusted. Anyway, one vehicle has finally been removed from the yard as of this morning. The boat that my H bought that didn't run.....should be removed sometime this afternoon (I hope). Of course, with my personality being what it is, I want it all done in one day, but I have learned over the years that is not going to happen with my H so I might as well practice holding my tongue and my temper and try to live and let live as best I can.
As far as the dog, it may take a while longer, but I think with all of us working on the GS that he will finally give it up. He is stubborn and immature and makes excuses or blames everything on somebody else. It's a long story and I won't go into it now, but I'll just say that I am leary about placing too much pressure about too many things on him at one time. He can't handle it. I'll just leave it at that. Perhaps to some of you that sounds like I'm making excuses for him.....but I don't tell everything and I'm not going to tell everything. However, I still appreciate everyone's concern and support about my feelings b/c I had wondered if I was just being a bitch about it.
The taxes.......nothing has progressed from the last posting. I think it is going to take a bomb to move him.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Or the IRS showing up to sell your home for the taxes...
Sandi...I wish you the best, always have...your are incredibly strong...outside of the bit with the OM (that you took responsibility for and handled well)you really have done your best in the worst possibly situation and your feelings are totally justified...I just wanted you to know that...your not a B****...you are a woman who has been pushed up against a wall by others choices...there is a difference...
Sandi Anyway, one vehicle has finally been removed from the yard as of this morning. WTG.
About the dog, I was talking about the dog's best interest. The fence sounded like a step in the right direction.
and makes excuses or blames everything on somebody else.. When this is allowed to continue, what does he learn? Al a non for you, not because anyone drinks, but because you have to let go of GS a little more and let him figure out how to care for things or suffer the consequences.
I don't see the IRS doing anything much other than collecting interest and a penalty. I assume you are talking only about one year's taxes.
Something is going on with the GS. He came home around 1:37 a.m. and I heard him make a phone call, but couldn't hear him talking. Few minutes later he left. My H got up in time to ask him where he was going and he said he had to talk to his mom, and H said, "At this time of night?" and GS said yes. So, don't know what is going on. He's worse than a drama queen only he's a male. The phone rang two different times after he left but would stop after one ring, so it is probably a fight with his GF. Never know about him or what he may decide to do.....it's kind of scary.
I have let go of him a lot just this past year. I love him with all my being, but he has a lot of growing up to do and he had a lot of problems. My H and I have been the only thing stable in his life and that was one of the guilt trips I would take about me and OM was the affect it would take on him as well as the others.
Thanks Lou
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It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
I have let go of [grandson] a lot just this past year. I love him with all my being, but he has a lot of growing up to do and he had a lot of problems. My H and I have been the only thing stable in his life and that was one of the guilt trips I would take about me and OM was the affect it would take on him as well as the others.
Sandi, I understand where you are at on this one. You love him very much, and want to protect him.
When "children" are all grown up though... sometimes, that's the worst possible thing to do. especially boys.
Yes, you want to avoid him suffering. Sometimes, though, that's the only way people can "grow". If you shield him from it, he will never be able to grow and become stronger.
It kinda sounds like you know all this already, but it also sounds like you maybe need to hear someone else saying it as well. So, I'm saying it for you
Okay, peace, love and harmony... breathe.... pixie dust... because my next post is going to be rather radical.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
