Long and Bumpy Road 2be continued...

[Startingover2]

Need help here!! I don't want to be reactive and want to say and do the right thing.

After our lunch the other day where he told me he wants to hang out a few days a week and spend some time together before the baby is born and then after that he feels like we will bond as a family....I asked him why wait until she is born to start bonding? His answer was he can't think about that because he has too much going on.

What do you all think of that? Is it just a ploy to keep his foot in the door so I don't shut him out of the rest of this pregnancy and birth? I know he is worried about that. He worries I won't call him when I go into labor.

Part of me says that is ok if he is being honest. But, the lingering question is it really that? Is it so he can continue cake eating? So he can still have contact with OW. So he doesn't have to make a decision yet and he can fence sit a bit longer?

I find myself pulling away from him. I never contact him and am back at that irritated place. I know OW is still lingering around but don't know their status. A girlfriend saw her yesterday and followed her....she drove by H's house 4 times in about 30 minutes. She is obscessed! I truly believe he is probably stringing her along and she is insecure about thier relationship too. I don't feel sorry for her.

I really need some answers. Do I go with the flow and spend time with him or do I say all or nothing at this point?