Well, that's the question, isn't it. Hmmmm, I'm readier than I was a month ago. I think I am getting pretty close to being ready to tell her that something has to change, that living the way we are isn't doing anyone any good. I my even head her off at the pass, and tell her that it could be that the way we do things is just too different. (She has often said things like this. She'll say that there is nothing wrong with being laid back, but she can't live like that.) I'm not sure I can change to be the person she wants. I don't think I want to.
So, my first choice would be to make this work. I think what that wold take is probably both of us being more accepting of what the other person is. Second choice would be to be done with it. Third choice, keep going like this.
If she showed any indication of working on her issues, I would try much harder to meet her half way with mine. And perhaps it is a selfish attitude, but I don't think I can get to where she wants me to be if she doesn't budge.
I'll probably read this later, and wish I could delete it, but I guess it is what I am feeling right now, so it is real and valid, this morning!
