This is a very true statement. And the reconnection, I think, does take some time, so much in fact, that we wonder when they will finally break out and make their move back home!!!!!!!!
My H has been reconnecting with the kids a little at a time over the past let's say 9 months.
It is much harder for him to do this with the girls because of the awful things he said to them which he does not remember, and on New Year's Day, he sat in his fav recliner and fell asleep!! He has not fallen asleep in that chair since he lived at home!!
As far as reconnecting with me--nothing of the sort from an intimate perspective but he is doing things for me--a lot of things such as paying for the car repairs, taking it upon himself to put gas in the car, etc.
This is where patience is a must and sometimes it can take its toll on us but we have to have the strength to keep it up.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
