It sounds like your W needs to GAL herself. I know you say she suffers from depression, but if she gets busy with something, that would surely take her mind off being depressed. Does she have any hobbies or activities that she ever had an interest in trying? I guess the trick would be for you finding a way to get her started into doing something that would make her happy.
She really has no hobbies, and few friends. She used to do a lot with people from work when we were together, but that has all fallen away. She used to be really interested in computers and stuff, but even though I sorted a lot of things for her during my packing and helped her get stuff together, I don't think she really does much with it.
Originally Posted By: KerryK
Right now it seems she sees you as doing so much better and happier in life than her and that only adds to her depression.
Sounds reasonable - She really has no prospects of things getting better any time soon. Throwing more $$$ at her never helps.
Originally Posted By: KerryK
Seems like you mention that she laments a lot about her loss of the OM. Have you considered that she might be so depressed as to be suicidal? I know that I am taking no chances with my W even though she does not seem depressed - just angry and irrational. That is the main reason why I got the guns out of our house and over to a 3rd party this afternoon.
I don't know why she is suddenly so quiet and unhappy. Maybe it's OM, maybe it's something else. W has talked about 'ending it all' in the past, but I know that with D she wouldn't do anything stupid. That said, I don't know if her depression is just when she is with me, or if she's holding herself up when she is at work, and just totally lets herself go around me.
I'm debating if I should bring it up to her today - She might get offended or defensive, but I'm not sure if I should just let it go. The last 10 days or so have shown a major change in W's behavior and attitudes, so I'm naturally concerned for her. I doubt she'd be terribly responsive....
Not really sure how to handle this. I think backing off and ignoring her isn't the right thing to do - She's obviously in a lot of pain right now.
