I agree with Sara and Trying - somehow you need to communicate with your wife and tell her how you feel. This is one thing that I think DBusters don't do enough. I know they say don't initiate R talks etc - it's pursuing. BUT they also say if something doesn't work then do a 180. In your sitch that would strike me as opening up to your wife and letting her see how hurt you are.
My H didn't come back to me until I did that - he thought I didn't care anymore.
Take care.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
