I think letting go and letting God is the best and probably the only option for you right now.
I think a lot of damage was done by calling ow's husband. (honestly, I'd have done the same thing ;\) ) He'll be angry for a while over that one. And he'll likely tell everyone how "crazy" you are.

Let go for know. Let things lie for awhile.

Me 36
Husband 35
D5
S2
separated:
10/29/07-present
Served divorce papers 1/22/09
"When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."