I think you're in a good place, doing exactly what you should be doing, having a good PMA and a lot of fun with no expectations wahatsoever about your W. You're living your life for you, and seem well prepared to continue that, no matter what W decides to do.
As you say, this doesn't mean you don't love your W and wouldn't want to work on things with her, just means that if she ever does come around she'll have to make a lot of noticeable changes and you'll be able to make an informed decision at that time. Keep it up!
Me: 43 W: 41 Together 2009, Married 2011 Sons 10 and 6, Daughter 5 Bomb 2/21/21. W moved out 10/2021