Thanks Palgal & IMP, I guess the reason i felt the need to respond this time was due to the way i treated him the last time we saw each other(i was angry). I didn't want to leave off on a backslide like that after all I have learned. He knows I get home from work around 4:00, so i texted him back around 6:00ish to stall a bit & to think of what i would say. I felt I needed to be loving, yet at the same time show my detatchment. I agree that it seems from his response that he may feel "off the hook". But I have come to realize that I cant hang him on a hook, cuz he is his own being and has a right to make his own decisions. I have learned here to be loving whenever possible to him(which is rare right now)while letting him make his own choices. So I tried to be nice and keep the text about me. I have a feeling that this was a temperature check for him. I do believe that MLCers feel the need to have you somehow reassure them that your not completely givin up on them. I was conveying that by saying "avoiding each other is not neccessary". However, I will leave it at that and I will not call or text him again untill he contacts me again. Oh and by the way, this note he left today is so different from the one sentence notes he left me after the 1st bomb last spring (1:Get an attorney, 2: I want a divorce, 3:take whatever you want from the house, I dont want any of it, 4: Take care of the dog-something new for ya, etc...). I finally changed my locks cuz everyday he came in and took what ever the heck he wanted & I couldnt even deal with the notes anymore. This note he left today was nothing like the ones from last time. I almost sense that he was really scared that I had finally gotten to my witts end and feels really bad for putting me through this again. Thanks again for the support, I love venting here! TIPPER
