You are going to have to be really patient. It might take months for this to blow over. It might be a long time before he's ready to say I love you again. Are you ready to hunker down? DB'ing is for the long haul!
Did you get Divorce Remedy yet?
Have you read JenJam's top 10 Divorce Busting tips yet? If not, I can post them on this thread for you.
I totally understand about holding on to a string of hope that no one else sees. You see it, and that's what matters. Keep holding on to it.
Remember, only believe half of what you see and 90% of what you hear during this time. It's called "Alien Spew"!!
It's a really good sign that your H thanked you for giving him space and being understanding and wonderful. It sounds like you are on the right track!