my wife would rather sleep than have sex.

i think that's a common answer/excuse among most working women (i hope that i am wrong.)

but here is another situation:


my wife says that she doesn't want to fool around most of the time because sex gets her adrenaline pumping, and then she is awake for most of night being unable to settle down and fall asleep--unlike me. she gets completely bent out of shape seeing me fall fast asleep, while she lies there wanting to go to sleep, but unable to. so she stops herself from wanting sex, because sleep is more important, especially during the work week. sex sun.-fri. never occurs. it's impossible to have sex during the week!

is this a common problem, or am i the only one whose wife feels this way? this is just another obstacle placed in the bed. she won't even entertain any suggestions--whether it's lets start earlier, or take an ambien before we have sex! it's just another reason why we can't have sex.

what can be done?