Look at jar, out on the town with new kickers...smelling all yummy.
That is the stuff GAL is made of. You may not know how to get back out there (did we want to? NO!), but you are doing it. I am glad you aired out the laundry with W, because she needed to hear what you had to say, and I think she listened.
Glad to see the time with OM (when she has your D's) is less and less. If it got to be more and more, that could be something used against her.
Keep it up jar. She might be waking up, and I know she is scared of losing you.
The positives of having young kids is being able to keep up with the terminology!
Good for you jar! What seemed to get my H to want to move back and "try again" is during one of our R talks where he stated he wanted a D, I told him that that's fine but that I was starting to have feelings for another person and didn't guarantee I'd still be around.... funny how they always want what they can't have... lol
KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK & KEEP MAKING YOURSELF HAPPY!!!
"GET BUSY LIVING OR GET BUSY DYING...."
And... for your viewing pleasure.... http://www.laughyourway.com/video/ Best video I've seen that helps define the difference between Men's & Women's thoughts.
Thanks all... didn't know that "kickers" are the new slang!!
Had a good time last night. Chatted up a very cute waitress at a local watering hole (normally don't do that) and she seemed interested. Invited her to have a few beers when she got off, but they got so busy she was never able to get off.
Talked to D's last night.. talked with W. She again asked where I was.. who was there etc. Said to have fun.
No word from W at all. I had some stuff to do this morning.. when I got home, there was a message from one of D5's friends to call her. I texted this info to W.. she asked for the #. Nothing since.
Again.. I'm fine moving on. I've actually got a much more positive attitude about it now than I've ever had. It does bother me that W hasn't even tried a pursuant move though. Usually she would try to get me to come over for some reason. Guess she's truly happy doing what she's doing.
So.. whatever was going on with W and OM is back on again. Called the D's last night and evidently they spent time at OM's and he was at W's. W was too busy spending time with OM.. D3 was being aggressive with D5 and making it hard for her to talk to me.
Supposedly D3 has strep now.. doesn't surprise me, other than the day was too busy for W to take D3 to Dr's. She's taking her today. Mother of the year award!!
This morning, W calls me to have a talk with D5. Evidently she's not listening and for whatever reason, W thinks phone discipline is best. Oh.. and OM was there.. wonder why D5 is acting up?
So... no real news. I'm a little frustrated that W isn't showing any signs of concern over our last conversation.
W never called to let me know what was happening with D3. When I called to talk to D's, she told me that D3 didn't have Strep, but she got anti-biotics for her anyway. Talked about the plan for this evening regarding the Buckeye game. We are heading up to a friends house. We are actually watching the game over at his Dad's, so his W volunteered to take the kids at some point back to their house and put them to bed while we finish watching the game.
Again.. story of my marriage right there. To me, it's very easy to appreciate and care for someone who thinks to do something like that.
When I told W this, of course she started with "No.. you will need to go with her and put the kids down.." Of course I played it off.. I said "Anyway.." she didn't like it, but moved on.
W called later.. keeping true to her only calling when she wants something, she wants part of the patio furniture out back. Part of my felt like fighting about it, but it's the older stuff which I never use anyway. So I said that was fine.
Had to change the garage code so she can get in while we are gone. She promised not to come in the house. I know OM will be with her.
This morning she called and told me about how she did their hair etc and how excited they are to be wearing the cheerleading outfits. Reminded me about D3's medicine and about the garage code.
She also asked if I was picking up D5 first or D3 first. She didn't give a reason, but if I pick D3 up first then I will see her. If I pick D5 up first, I won't.
When I told W this, of course she started with "No.. you will need to go with her and put the kids down.." Of course I played it off.. I said "Anyway.." she didn't like it, but moved on.
She is adjusting to the new rules...good.
Originally Posted By: jarhead
Had to change the garage code so she can get in while we are gone. She promised not to come in the house. I know OM will be with her.
It might be better that OM is with her. He would not dare come into your house--grounds for a beatingg. On her own, she might.
Just wanted to come on and tell you how amazing you are. Your strength with your W is so wonderful. I'd like to borrow some, if possible??
Thanks for coming on to my thread with the C advice the other day too. I do appreciate it.
So, I have to say that I work with a guy that is a HUGE Buckeye fan. His office is at the opposite end of the building from me, but we could hear that damned fight song each Friday during the season!! He'd even have chip/dip Friday using a Buckeye chip/dip bowl set his employees had given him for his birthday. So, I'm a bit tired of the Buckeyes. However, just for you, I'll root for them! Quietly, but I'll do it.
Have a great time!
SueS
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
At least my 6 yr old tells me so....I am sooo out of it.