Yes, yes, get SSM as soon as you can! It is so, so, so helpful. I really feel like if I had gotten that info earlier I would not even be on the DB'ing board. Even if you have to read it secretly or something. It is so worth it!
It's funny that you wish you had more time to read... I wish I was in contact with my man!!! So we both have things that the other one wants. :-) Well, I wish I could give you a "brain transfusion" of everything I've been learning from my ridiculously long reading list!!
If you ever do feel like showing him something you're reading, the guide to getting it on is the most lighthearted and good hearted thing I've ever read about sex, and it's very welcoming and share-able. Kind of addictive, too. Especially if presented in the context of, "I am interested in making things better" as opposed to "you need to be trained as a lover, H!"
I am glad he apologized to you. Could you let it slide and tell yourself "he must just be teething?" or something? I know it's hard.
This might have nothing to do with your stich at all, but sometimes it helps me to think of sex as not just intercourse, but everything else.... if the intercourse part is not fun, are there other things that you can share together that are fun that might lead to Os? You have probably already thought about this--just throwing it out there. I also read (I am so funny, you are right, I read so much) in "couple burnout" that the #1 cause of sexual boredom is only having intercourse as opposed to everything else.
