sorry, have to disagree with that.... I don't believe it is about the ow/om, I believe it is about the spouse who cheats or walks away and the issues inside of them that they aren't dealing with properly......there are many reasons people cheat.....but I think it rarely has to do with the ow/om..... and very few are lasting relationships, but they would be if they were the PERFECT person that the spouse was looking for right?