Hmm...it seems that she is just ultra defensive that you blame her and she's not about to take it. Her role in her work makes it hard for her to be blamed for anything in her personal life. I hate to reiterate what she has said to you, but she looks like she is LOOKING FOR reasons to be down about you. He is disenchanted. So what? It is not a death sentence for you guys. It CAN turn around. I don't think these ups and downs are so uncommon in marriages. I am a bit short on what advice to give though. The cooking and cleaning would be AWESOME for me though! lol!
TRY to not ACCUSE her of anything. Oh, and I would be a little put off at the title of the book if I were the LD and not initiating fixing things. I love reading self improvement books, but when my husband feels that I am reading one to "fix" him, he gets very defensive as well.
You were just feeling frustrated and looking for support/answers. You felt JUSTIFIED in reading it in front of her, even though maybe a part of you felt it probably would not be well received by her. Would you agree or no?
