You are right Seek our sitches are a lot alike. I have really cut back on the calling. I was shocked tonight when H called me after D and I left house. Wasn't planning to hear from him until he showed up tomorrow. I really don't remember what we were talking about and I couldn't figure out what he called about. When I asked what time he would be by in the morning he said that was why he called. I do try to end all the conversations so that I have a little control over the sitch and don't seem needy.
Sounds to me like you are doing great considering all the other mess you have been through.
Thank God for this site and the books. I have definitely learned to pull back and not push. I try to be the queen of cool and collected when H is around. I am starting to do more things for myself that I have always depended on H for.
My C told me that if I wanted some meds we could work that out but she didn't think it was necessary. I am actually functioning quite well and friends who know my sitch are amazed at how well I'm handling it. I think part of it is from the half of my genes I get from my mom and the other part is trying to keep it together for the Ds.
