the financially dependent spouse in MLC

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I am interested in hearing how others are handling their financially dependent spouses. Especially when those spouses are becoming desperate.

I am in a somewhat unusual situation in that I am the W and WAH has been the one w/financial dependency issues. I had tried to interest him in financial matters but he didn't seem to be interested. I took care of most bills. H would charge credit card and I paid. H complained constantly basically implying I am cheap. Really it was that i supported H and had nothing left over (never again).

Now H may well be discovering that being the person who is responsible for all that stuff really sucks! My guess is that OW is fairly financially dependent on him (but not entirely).

H also has no clue what real child support will be. H pays but not the full amount that would likely be owed post-D.

Anyway, just wondering how others are handling the financially dependent spouse who is resentful of the responsible "parent" spouse......

What I find is that I do not want H to come back financially dependent. I want him to learn how to take care of himself.