JUST ME VENTING before i go home -

last night he was rediculous and i'm not taking that kind of nonsense anymore.

the last couple nights I'v done a few loads of laundry, but haven't had the time to fold it, so it's just kinda laid out in a pile. I called him and asked him if he wanted to go take D3 to see Alvin last night (we've been wanting to do this) cause my sister and BIL would watch the baby. He said sure. He was happy(or seemed so) on the phone. I got home and he's angry and pissd off and telling me he can't effing find a GD thing. First of all, language like that is not going to get me to do anything for him. I got the girls situated and then asked him what he needed. I found what he needed out of the laundry and he got dressed. I picked up fast food for dinner since i wouldn't have time to cook and got that ready for the girls. I cleaned up a bit while everyone ate and then i ate a little. We left and in the car he's being obviously upset. I asked how his day was, he said "fine" it was more of a growl than actual talk, so i asked him what was wrong.
H:he was frustrated because (paraphrase) he can never find anything, cause the house will never be clean enough and it doesn't matter how many times he tells me how much this bothers him that i just don't care.
M:I told him that I'm sorry he feels that way and that we've both been sick lately and once we are feeling better I'll be able to keep up on the laundry better and do some more detailed stuff around the house and that i appreciate what he's been doing to help.
H: yeah, sure.
M: Can you help me to understand why you are do upset about this all of the sudden, i talked to you a few hours ago and you seemed fine.
H: Do you know how frustrating it is for me to look for the shirt i want and not be able to find it in the closet where it goes?
M: so you are mad because i didn't have the laundry folded. (bit my tongue and didn't say, well you could get off your ass and fold it )

H: well, i shouldn't have to search everywhere, i didn't know where my stuff was and it's just rediculous that it took so long for me to be able to get ready cause i had to wait for you.
M: (opps, i let go of my tongue ) it took me about 1 minute to go through and find your things. I told you this morning that they were in the pile because i washed them. If you wanted them you could have gotten them yourself.
H: i'm not dealing with that
M: so you are mad because i didn't get your clothes ready for you.
H: it's just frustrating, i didn't say i was mad.
M: ok

i was quiet and he asked why and i said i would hate to say something to put any further strain on the evening.

I got an apology about 45 minutes later. He said that he's sorry for being that way. That he knows he could have just gotten it. I said thank you. Conversation needed more, but seriously, the little one was there and we were about to get into the movie.

whatever... just venting here before i go home, so i'm not holding on to that!

ok... i feel better now! ;\)

have a nice weekend everyone! \:\)

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