Separated and unsure how to proceed

[SirPrizeMe]

Kimmie! I know just how you feel. I get super nervous, too, when I have an appointment with my wife.

Keep cool! It's just breakfast. Doesn't need to be a momentous occasion. Just one breakfast. Relax. Smile. Be pleasant. Above all, be pleasant.

you can do this.

I've changed my mind and I don't feel like talking to him at all now. It seems too much like ass-kissing and I am not the one who's done anything wrong. He's a cold sob who doesn't deserve to be catered to by me.

About your doubts - why should you be the one to take the first step? - we've all asked those questions of ourselves. The truth is, it doesn't have to be you. But, it could be you. It depends on what you want. The way I look at it, if you want your marriage, you should be prepared to fight for it.

Your marriage is a privilege, and you may have to work to save it. There's no guarantee, but if you want it, you'll have to do something about it. Put an effort in. Swallow pride. Endure abuse and unfair treatment. Not forever of course. That's not a marriage worth saving. But for a time, you may have to endure hardship. Prepare yourself for it!