I don't know if you've got to grips with all of my sitch but since 12/12 when I told W that the M was over she has calmed down towards me and been quite civil, this also coincided with her saying it was over with OM. So we've been doing fun things together since Christmas and this started when I set the tone by setting up our xmas breakfast of Croissant & Bucks fizz. I think W was expecting me to be misery guts but I pulled out all the stop to make things enjoyable. The only set back was when I snooped xmas night for which I've apologised and we've seemed to overcome that indiscression.
Tonight we took the xmas decorations down together, and while we were chatting W was planning what we would be doing on Sunday after shopping. Normally it's me who's suggesting what to do but W seems keen for us to do things as a family together and this is more so since she said things are over with OM.
My instincts will tell me if she is in contact with OM, at the moment they say no contact, but I feel that they are not done. Anyway that's just me.
Its hard for me to see W just as a friend because I love her to bits and I want her. Actually since I've been getting out and GAL I know women want me so this makes it sooo frustrating for me.
Anyway Sandi I trust your insights so I'm gonna be the best friend I can for W, I know this works because the anger has really died down, and we're even laughing together. Remember back when all I could post was how petty and angry W was with me. So if I think back to that I know I've made massive strides.
Thanks for giving me new focus, I know wouldn't be here now without your help in the early days.
Me:50 W: 49 T:20yrs M: 14 yrs D:11 2005 PA 2006: EA (2003 : 2007) 2007: April ILYBNILWY Aug PA, Sept Separate 2008: Feb Piecing 2009 Limbo 2011: Separated (same house) 2013: Divorcing