I don't know it is so hard. While one approach works for someone maybe it won't work for the other. For me I just let it all out. I approached him and just spoke from my heart. I figured I could show him all I wanted to through actions. But words are way stronger then actions in my opinion. At that point I didn't give a rats behind if I was pursuing. It was a last resort to trying to save my marriage. I also had to swallow a lot of hurt when I did it. Because I expected him to be coming to me begging for me to take him back. He betrayed me. From my perspective sometimes the walk away spouse see's the positive changes as us moving on without them. Or trying to create a life without them. We have to let them into our hearts to know how we are feeling once in awhile. Not to tell them we want or should stay together for the kid's. But if we do indeed love them then tell them that.
But from your recent posts it sounds like you are just done. I know you have this information about what she is planning. But I mean you yourself from my take on it it sounds like you are just done and ready to move on. I can't say I blame you as you have been through He**. But it sounds like on the way out you want to let everyone know the truth you know to be real. Kind of like stabbing her in the back. Using the kid's tactic and the parent aspect. That is how she will feel about it I am sure in her deranged mind. While I agree with you because it is what I would want to do, is shout it from the roof tops. That my spouse destroyed this marriage. However you need to think about one thing. This is the woman you will have to co-parent with. What happens if this starts an all out war with her as divorce proceedings may be taking place?
New Horizons,
Yeah Her speakers may be shut off. Or so he thinks. But believe if the person you married and vowed to love is standing before you asking for a little time to talk. I believe they will listen. They have to listen if you are speaking. Whether it changes anything you can't be certain. But if you love someone and want to stay together then they will never know if you don't say anything.
