well, think of it this way, what does giving up mean, really? a lot of what DB'ing is about is about GAL, re-discovering yourself, and if possible showing those changes to your spouse (not pointing them out, just actually living them). those are things you should be doing regardless of your marital status, so in that sense, I say don't give up.
if you mean where should your own mind set be, well, that's a harder one. I think you aren't ready to give up until you know inside are truly ready for it, or until you notice you are holding on to the detriment of your own health/well being. its hard to force that issue. so I guess my advice would be to do what you can do, but do it for YOU. in the end, it will make you a stronger, healthier person. and if, along the way, it happens to attract your spouse back to you, well, that is the bonus.
I'm glad you have a therapist appt. good luck and hope it goes well! mine has been a godsend.
Last edited by SallyM; 01/04/0810:14 PM.
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"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
