The one thing I noticed over & over again was him saying something to "shut you up." What is it that he is trying to shut up over & over again? I don't get that.

I also don't understand how you could have known him for a year and then bam on your wedding night, he's all of a sudden "accidentally" ordering a porn movie. All of the things you have talked about him doing seem so bizarre and *not quite normal* to me and it just seems odd that he didn't act like this before.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not *blaming* you for not seeing something before marrying him or anything, I just don't think, FROM WHAT YOU HAVE DESCRIBED HERE, that he is quite "right."


Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10