I did see a lawyer....Its pretty tricky on the finances when you share an account, both contribute to the account, and you dont really want to rock the boat too much. But at some point, you have to stop the rocking from the bow. Some changes will be made asap if served I guess. I just will have to.
They didnt really make any financial recommendations. I created my own checking and credit card and moved some stuff over so I could finance my defense in case my accounts were frozen.
