well, all hell broke loose, it is over and done

[cat03]

We had another talk about lying at MC just now, the MC believes all cards have to be on the table and there shouldn't be any secrets between us if we want a chance to make things right. I only asked about the one thing I wanted to know, if the latest ow encounters were indeed just about friendship--H said it was a very close friendship (due to their past together) but that it wasn't physical. And that was that, I was satisfied with the answer.
H was 30min late, so we didnt' have a full hr, instead I filled in the MC about what happened that day and we were able to have a more informed chat with H without him being there and him having to listen the story of the balcony jumping, which I'm sure it will take a while to dissapear from his memory.

Our MC is pretty good, not quite like the first one who was christian and gave us more encouragement about how we would make it, he was more like "you have a good shot at this R" sort of guy, but he does sound pro-marriage for the most part. H again surprised me and talked more than he ever did with the other C, perhaps because he indeed has had an eureka moment. MC told H that it wasn't his responsibility what could happen to ow anymore, that our M wouldnt' have a chance if he kept "rescuing" ow. H said that the more he thought about it, the more he believed he couldnt' live with ow and that a R with her would've been a disaster.

MC gave us homework, to write "what does it mean to you to be in a loving relationship?", I know it will be hard for H as he is still trying to look at himself in a positive light, but I'm excited to talk about it at MC next week.