I disagree I think DBing can backfire in a way. In a way I think it is GREAT for self improvement. It is great that the our spouse's can see a new us. See positive changes. But it ISN'T communication. I think I have mentioned here that I didn't have a break through with my husband until I opened up and told him how I felt. Our spouse's don't know what we are willing to do or how we feel unless we tell them.
I agree though Mark at this point I would talk to my inlaws also if I were in your shoes. They are only getting one side to the story. She may be angry you did. But if she comes after you with venow tell her you did because you love her and want your marriage to work.
