Thats steep. I dont know about you but i dont want to come between fil and his d. Over Christmas my fil asked how it was going between me and w, i said not great w would rather seperate to fig things out. he started to tell me that if she didnt straighten up i should go for the kids. i replied i dont like to think about that. I thought to myself i just want my w to want me. Sorry for babbling. I think about blood is thicker than water and dont want in the middle of that.
On a funnier note my uncle who is past away now had a cool story. He bought an ultra light plane and was testing motor (driving around on the ground) and the straps that hold the seat shifted back causing him to go airborn unexpectedly. He had a heck of a time landing it, i think it got a little bent up. When he told the story my cheeks hurt. You dont need a license to fly one of them. Just an idea.
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Me 37 W 37 D21 D17 D12 S8 grandparents 7/07 boy Married 16 yrs last June 07 Bomb dropped 4/07
"Do what you feel in your heart to be right-for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do, and damned if you don't", Eleanor Roosevelt
I used to do a bit of gliding when younger - never went solo. My instructor had all the horror stories pertaining to taking people up and that were a bit emotional at times. I guess I am a bit biased by his stories - by the time he was instructing me he took up pretty much only women as he was stronger than them!!! I guess he was trying to impress me with things that had happened to him but it rather scared me. I can be quite the wimp when I feel not in control.
I love Forest Gump - I always have to watch it with a big box of tissues though, (and chocolates).
Over here they are saying on the news this morning that one of the breweries is only going to serve parents with children with them two alcoholic drinks. Then they are going to refuse to even serve them soft drinks and coffee as they don't want people with kids in their pubs - it's causing a bit of contraversy!!!!
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
I just had a chat with a trusted friend who advised me to go ahead and pursue the training with the FIL. I'm still his son-in-law, right? It's my GAL, darn it. So he agreed that I should go.
Also, he suggested that while visiting, I broach the subject of my wife's relationship with her boyfriend. Specifically, for the purposes of finding out their level of support of a woman who refuses to terminate an adulterous relationship, pursue a divorce, and become wife #4 for this guy.
Several months ago, I told the in-laws that I will never ask them to do anything or not do any thing, and that will not change. However, as things stand now, I believe that I have very little to lose in opening up this discussion with them. They are getting only half of the story (and I suspect a lot of lies: I am a bad guy, she has broken off relationship, there is no hope for us, etc.).
I've followed your thread, but never commented because you think things through so well that I've never been able to add anything.
Having said that, I'd bet that your IL's support of your wife was exaggerated, both in the original email and by OM's wife. Both have motives to do so.
Hi there! My dad took flying lessons when we were young & loved them. He regrets not keeping up them. I hope that goes well for you.
Forrest Gump!! So, we were sitting doing the same thing last night! In the last department I was in with my company, we all had to go by our initials. We had a guy whose initials were were GMP. Yes, we called him Gump.
I hope you're doing okay. How have you done this for so long? Seeing your W in this mess since Sept. of '06? I didn't see when the actual date was that you found out. It's been 7 months for me and I'm just at a loss. I go up and down. My close friends that know seem to think I'm crazy for not giving him the boot. He's had a previous A and this one is even more intense. They don't understand why I'd let it continue. Hell, I don't want it to, but I can't stop it. AAHHHHH.
SueS
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ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
DB'ing doesn't backfire as it's based on self-improvement. Your wife's actions are not yours. Keep moving forward. In the long run it's not about some other man, it's about the personality of your wife and yourself. Make yourself the better choice and if she chooses a loser, well she gets the booby prize, now, doesn't she.
I disagree I think DBing can backfire in a way. In a way I think it is GREAT for self improvement. It is great that the our spouse's can see a new us. See positive changes. But it ISN'T communication. I think I have mentioned here that I didn't have a break through with my husband until I opened up and told him how I felt. Our spouse's don't know what we are willing to do or how we feel unless we tell them.
I agree though Mark at this point I would talk to my inlaws also if I were in your shoes. They are only getting one side to the story. She may be angry you did. But if she comes after you with venow tell her you did because you love her and want your marriage to work.
What the hell? I don't get these WAS? So they get to go screw someone else, push us away, give us nothing to work with and once we back away a little and give them the space they say they so desperately need.....we're the ones done? Sorry, for the rant, it just really makes me angry.
You're a good man Mark. I'm just sorry that your W can't see that.
Here's a big hug from MN to OH. ((((HUG))))
SueS
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
