Well, as a fellow submissive, I don't think I could pull off those 3 points and still keep my sense of...self respect?....pride?....if my H didn't respond back. And what if he doesn't say "I'm outta here?"
I should repeat that I'm not really down with this scenario. This isn't a good analogy to how I've "dug my own well" sexually but...I would say that obviously it shows a lack of differentiation if your H's response to those behaviors determines your self-respect or pride. I would think that you were pretty confident and cool to be able to do those things with no response and I would bet the bank that if you acted like you were confident and cool when you did them you would either get f8cked or your H would go.
Actually, since I mentioned it I would say that gaining self-awareness that what I really most want from a man is what I might call affectionate-man-handling is what has allowed me to dig my own sexual well and the three behaviors I listed above wouldn't get me what I want which isn't exactly sex but certainly can be. However, there are behaviors which I can manifest that will get me what I want in the normal course of things for the same reason.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
